Doran Lamb
1 min readMay 12, 2021

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I remember this case and whilst I try to withhold judgment of this couple as I’m not there and I don’t know them, I am surprised to hear that they are thinking of adopting another child that may have specific needs. I hope that they reconsider this and learn from their lessons. They have 4 children of their own, which is more than enough to keep you busy for a whole life. I don’t know what their motivation would be with pursuing adoption again after their previous difficulties but would hope that if they did it would be a child who didn’t have specific needs. I imagine that they are traumatised by the experience, I know that the child involved deserves most of our concern and rightly so, but I can’t imagine that anything about it was easy for them, no matter how much they are demonised in the press, I’m sure they gave the child a lot of love and wanted him to be part of their family. I am sure that they are experiencing grief and loss from his departure. But they weren’t the right parents for him, they didn’t have the skills necessary to help and support a child with special needs. Why risk all that hurt again by taking on another child? I worry about their motivations and coping skills with another child. I really do wish them all the best though and I hope that they heal from this episode.

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Doran Lamb
Doran Lamb

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