Thanks for your comments Margaret, it’s really good to hear that you get me. I spent most of my life until I ventured into therapy 5 years ago carrying a ridiculous amount of guilt from my family. It has dominated my adult life. I hope I can achieve what you have and be my own person. Like you I do a ton of work on myself now, but as you also mention it’s very very slow. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. It means a lot to me that I’m not the only person who has spent most of their life stuck on the hamster wheel of guit