This makes complete sense and you give great advice. This is where bad feelings are actually good or useful comes in. I've realised over the years that actually working through those bad feelings allows you to get somewhere in the end. Long road though but yes your advice is good and I really appreciate it. When I wrote this it was certainly a bad day and I was stuck down a hole of self pity and despair...I'm surprised that more people haven't come out and told me to get a grip!